What is 'hanging out'? How does it relate to 'hooking up'? And whatever happened to dating? With the loss of local community comprising families, people of all ages and both sexes, and regular social gatherings of a conducive kind, many young adults now have no natural setting in which to mingle with a fair number of the other sex over a period of years, gradually working out their feelings and eventually beginning to date more seriously. If you have to go from a 'standing start' to a formal date it is less likely to happen.


Selected Articles

Conversational Templates

We can throw some light on men and women’s different ways of dealing with emotion by considering two different ‘conversational templates’: drawing out and chipping in.

Just Listen

One of the most common pieces of relationship advice you will hear is men being advised not to try and 'solve' a woman's feelings, but to simply listen. Why is that?


An 'Aura of Fun'

So much of our popular culture tries to project an 'aura of fun'. But are we really all having as much fun as we'd like people to think?

Hook-up Culture

In the not too distant past there was a more developed 'dating culture', but in many places that has largely disappeared.


The 'Practicality Trap'

It is easy for married couples to slip into a pattern of relationship that is all about the practical part of life - work, chores, kids ...

It Can't All Be Spontaneous

It seems somehow unromantic to plan for feelings. How do you know how you'll feel next Friday? But why can't it all be spontaneous?


Selfish, or Self-Centred?

What is the difference between being selfish and being self-centred? Why is understanding this difference important in relationships?

We Need to Build

The relations between the sexes are confused. We need to build a culture of more harmonious and beautiful relations between men and women.


The Comfortable Marriage

Is a 'comfortable' marriage a good or a bad thing? On the one hand isn't that what we all want? On the other hand we can get complacent.

What does 'sexy' mean?

The word 'sexy' gets used fairly loosely these days. What does it really mean? Does it mean the same thing as 'sexual'?


Fostering a Renaissance of Marriage

This article takes up a question raised in the opening address at the "Renaissance of Marriage" conference held in Sydney, Australia in 2016.

A Spirituality of Attraction

What is a 'spirituality of attraction'. The attraction between masculine and feminine is proposed as the core analogy for a spirituality of sexuality.


A Curriculum for Femininity?

Adults are aware of a negative 'curriculum for femininity' operative in our culture. But what would a positive 'curriculum for femininity' consist of?

Competence for Marriage

Why does marriage require greater relationship competence now? How can marriage education reach more people?